Moving can be one of life's most stressful events, and with good reason! Even moves that go smoothly can be very time-consuming, but it's ultimately change that makes moving stressful. And, there are added pressures for kids, who live in the firmly "in the moment" and have a difficult time seeing past the immediate upheaval to their lives. They're largely - and rightly - concerned with their day-to-day routines and their friends. Altering those bedrocks can be extremely stressful for the whole family.
This guide contains useful information on how to help your children accept the move, see the benefits of the move and prepare for the move ... and this is the key for a successful move for you and your family.
You may wish to point out to your children that millions of kids move with their families each year ... Moving is a part of life! The trick is helping your children see the bigger picture ... Why do you need to move? And, how will the move improve your lives? Maybe you'll be in a larger home, or be in a better school district, or closer to family. Or, maybe none of this is the case, but your new job will allow you to spend more time with your family.
Children tend to focus on the emotions associated with the move, while adults focus on the logistics. As challenging as it is for children, most will actually benefit from moving at least once in their youth, because it can help them develop the skills to meet new people with ease and to appreciate diverse communities.
General
Moving in general can be challenging, but moving with a family brings a whole host of new challenges. While adults can be emotional, we tend to have more control over our emotions. In contrast, children's emotions can be much more dramatic.
Keep everybody involved!
One important strategy is keeping the entire family included in the process so that nobody feels left out. Keep everyone informed on plans and tasks and any activities associated with the move. It is good to allow the children to be involved in some of the decision-making. For example, take them with you on house-hunting trips at your new location. Ask them what features are most important to them in a new home. If you are unable to include them in the house-hunting process, be sure to share pictures so that everyone can visualize the new home and feel as if they have some input on the move. It's also a great way to "up" the excitement factor!
Often, kids are most afraid of the unknown. The more you can do to familiarize them with your new home and community, the better. If your move is to another city, get as much information as you can and share it with your kids. Highlight things you know will interest them, such as a good baseball team or lots of kid-oriented activities. If the city is not too far away, schedule a family trip to begin to get to know your new home. Visit the local parks and museums or any other local attractions. Drive by your new workplace and other points of interest so your kids will begin to feel more comfortable about moving.
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